New Year’s Realizations

New Year’s Realizations

Is it me or have the last few years been exceptionally challenging? Does it seem to you like reality feels more and more trite with each passing year? Maybe this sense is a symptom of middle age? In any case, I find myself having a harder time getting on board with...

How to Get the Most Out of Therapy

How to Get the Most Out of Therapy

Are you a self saboteur? Of course you are. We all are in one way or another. What this means is that you subconsciously sabotage your success. I see this all the time in therapy. People make the effort to find and sign on with a therapist but then derail their...

Coping With a World Gone Mad

Coping With a World Gone Mad

Dishes are piled up in the sink. Clothes are spilling over the edges of hampers. White fluffs of dog fur cover the floor. Emails are unwritten. Texts have been ignored. Deadlines remain unmet. This is my life right now. Like many, I'm saddened by the state of the...

Listen to Your Ancestors

Listen to Your Ancestors

I could feel her pain as if it were my own, and it was excruciating. An ocean of sorrow crashed against me, inside my body. I wailed and wept, utterly overwhelmed by the intensity of emotions. I saw blood. A miscarriage. I felt the mother's grief. She was a young...

How to Choose a Therapist

How to Choose a Therapist

I hated my counselor. She was nice enough but I was convinced that she didn’t really care about me and that the only reason she pretended to was because she was getting paid. I was twelve years old and had been forced into therapy. I didn’t benefit from the...

Who’s Afraid of Shadow Work?

Who’s Afraid of Shadow Work?

 "Do I have to?" "I'd rather not." "I'm not a fan." These are all responses I've heard from clients when I've invited them to go deeper into their psyches. Few people are eager to explore the depths of their own subconscious. I've noticed that the discomfort is most...

Using Archetypes for Guidance and Growth

Using Archetypes for Guidance and Growth

What was your favorite toy as a child? Mine was Barbie, without question. I had a ridiculous number of them and pretty much never wanted to play with anything else. Sometimes I played with my sister, but mostly I enjoyed playing alone. I enjoyed traveling deep into...

How’s Your Soul Doing?

How’s Your Soul Doing?

When was the last time you exercised your soul? Health and wellness tends to be compartmentalized but we can't really isolate any aspect of wellbeing. We're whole beings with complex, interactive systems. In recent years, there's been a growing understanding that...

ReParenting For More Confidence and Self Love

ReParenting For More Confidence and Self Love

Think back to your childhood. How would you describe it? How would you describe yourself? How did it feel to be a kid? Adults often have a romanticized notion of childhood. As if being a kid is simple, carefree and easy. Was that your experience? Or do you feel sad or...

Reclaiming Ritual and Sacred Ceremony

Reclaiming Ritual and Sacred Ceremony

In middle school, I kept a scrapbook of all of the Bar and Bat Mitvahs I attended, which included fancy invitations, napkins and photographs. As a Jewish kid attending a Jewish school, I was invited to a lot of these events. Though I never had a Bat Mitzvah myself...

Are You Afraid of Your Own Shadow?

Are You Afraid of Your Own Shadow?

Are you afraid of shadow work? Plodding through shadow is something that comes so naturally to me that I forget that it can be intimidating for people. "Shadow Work" has become a trendy term lately. While I appreciate that more people are interested in self...

It’s OK for Life to be an Evolution

It’s OK for Life to be an Evolution

Who am I? We ponder that a lot when we're young. Perhaps not consciously but the first several years of adulthood are often spent in pursuit of the answer to this question. We seek ourselves in the music we listen to, the movies we watch, the people we hang out with...