Listen to Your Ancestors
I could feel her pain as if it were my own, and it was excruciating. An ocean of sorrow crashed against me, inside my body. I wailed and wept, utterly overwhelmed by the intensity of emotions. I saw blood. A miscarriage. I felt the mother's grief. She was a young...
How to Choose a Therapist
I hated my counselor. She was nice enough but I was convinced that she didn’t really care about me and that the only reason she pretended to was because she was getting paid. I was twelve years old and had been forced into therapy. I didn’t benefit from the...
Who’s Afraid of Shadow Work?
"Do I have to?" "I'd rather not." "I'm not a fan." These are all responses I've heard from clients when I've invited them to go deeper into their psyches. Few people are eager to explore the depths of their own subconscious. I've noticed that the discomfort is most...
Using Archetypes for Guidance and Growth
What was your favorite toy as a child? Mine was Barbie, without question. I had a ridiculous number of them and pretty much never wanted to play with anything else. Sometimes I played with my sister, but mostly I enjoyed playing alone. I enjoyed traveling deep into...
Normalize Paying for Mental Health Care
"I'd go to therapy but my insurance won't cover it." I can't tell you how many times I've heard this. Or how many times clients stopped coming because they lost insurance or deductibles were reset. Or how many times people have told me my coaching services sound...
How’s Your Soul Doing?
When was the last time you exercised your soul? Health and wellness tends to be compartmentalized but we can't really isolate any aspect of wellbeing. We're whole beings with complex, interactive systems. In recent years, there's been a growing understanding that...
ReParenting For More Confidence and Self Love
Think back to your childhood. How would you describe it? How would you describe yourself? How did it feel to be a kid? Adults often have a romanticized notion of childhood. As if being a kid is simple, carefree and easy. Was that your experience? Or do you feel sad or...
Reclaiming Ritual and Sacred Ceremony
In middle school, I kept a scrapbook of all of the Bar and Bat Mitvahs I attended, which included fancy invitations, napkins and photographs. As a Jewish kid attending a Jewish school, I was invited to a lot of these events. Though I never had a Bat Mitzvah myself...
Are You Afraid of Your Own Shadow?
Are you afraid of shadow work? Plodding through shadow is something that comes so naturally to me that I forget that it can be intimidating for people. "Shadow Work" has become a trendy term lately. While I appreciate that more people are interested in self...
It’s OK for Life to be an Evolution
Who am I? We ponder that a lot when we're young. Perhaps not consciously but the first several years of adulthood are often spent in pursuit of the answer to this question. We seek ourselves in the music we listen to, the movies we watch, the people we hang out with...
Self Care Strategies for Maintaining Balance
How well do you maintain balance in life? Personally, I find it very difficult. My energy fluctuates a lot, my motivation is terribly inconsistent, I'm highly sensitive and often energetically overwhelmed, I'm sentimental and deeply emotional. All of this regularly...
Space Clearing as Spiritual Practice
My grandfather was a hoarder. Not as bad as what you see on TV, but several areas of his home were filled with boxes and piles of stuff. The basement was the worst. I always got the heeby-jeebies going down there, which I attributed to standard basement creepiness....