How can a firearm have more rights than a woman?

What is this messed up country I live in? Forced birth in a nation where gun violence is the number one cause of death for children. Forced birth in a country that offers no universal childcare, no universal healthcare, no paid parental leave. Forced birth when there is the highest maternal mortality rate amongst developed countries. Forced birth in a country where there is already a foster care crisis… you’ve heard all of this.

Then, of course, there’s our right as females to bodily autonomy. There’s the disintegration of our democracy. There’s the reversal of years of progress.

I’ve spent the last week processing this horrible event with my clients and my friends and family. I wish I had some magic elixir to cure the heartbreak, fear, and despair this ruling caused. I wish I could snap my fingers and wake us all up from a bad dream. I wish I could turn back time, all the way back to the 2016 election (President Sanders!)

Alas, here we are. In the hours and days that followed the reversal of Roe v. Wade, I was both buoyed and disheartened by the responses of opposition. While I agree that we need to use our anger to fuel resistance, I believe it must first undergo a powerful alchemical process.

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” ~Albert Einstein

Similarly, we can’t shift energy with the same energy. Anger is anger. Fear is fear. Hatred is hatred. It doesn’t matter what’s fueling it–the energy is the same regardless. So while I appreciate the outrage and the fact that people are gearing up to resist this tyranny, I think we ought to make an effort to fuel the fight with love rather than fear. 

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

If we want things to shift on a profound, energetic level we must love harder, wider and deeper than ever before.

I’m not suggesting anyone accept the situation, nor am I encouraging anyone to love people who seek power and control over them. You don’t have to love your enemy to battle their awful energy, you just have to love. 

So work your magic in your tiny sphere–love yourself, your family, your friends, your community members, the earth. Offer kindness, nurturance, support, acceptance, encouragement, and hope wherever to whomever you can, in any way that feels good to you. I believe it matters more than we realize. We’ve let fear dominate for far too long. It’s time to let love lead.

“Hate has talked so loudly for so long. Greed has talked so loudly for so long. Liars have talked so loudly for so long. Love has got to stop whispering.” ~Marianne Williamson

This is my battle cry. It’s the way I know to bring balance, restore order and resist fascism. Of course, donate money in support of organizations that work to protect women’s rights and abortion access. Of course, attend protests and rallies, write letters, speak up. But whatever you do, please don’t stop loving.

With Love & Compassion,

Adina Arden Cooper

I'm a lover, a guide, a supportive companion. A storyteller, an artist, an ally and an advocate. I help individuals thrive and communities come together through counseling, coaching, and community building. I believe that shared humanity is a powerful strength and that our stories connect us in beautiful and sacred ways. As I stumble, skip, or soar my way through this life, I invite you to join me on the journey. Likewise, I'm honored to travel with you. In witnessing one another, we find meaning.